How to Lose Weight and Keep It Off For Good
Healthy food and exercising play a large part in the weight loss process, but these two alone are not sufficient in leading people to long lasting weight loss.
There seems to be a missing ingredient in the Permanent Weight Loss Equation.
Healthy Meals + Regular Exercising +? = Permanent Weight Loss.
Professor Dr David Charles Dodson is one of experts who are convinced that the overweight epidemic is generated and maintained by psychological issues which cannot be solved by a crash diet. He says:
"Most people with weight problems have struggled to lose it for years and in the process have become quite expert in the fields of diet and exercise... yet their weight remains out of control. This implies a sort of mental block, an inability to apply the knowledge one has." 97% of those who go on a diet fail in completing it.
More than 95 % of those who lose weight through diets gain all the weight back within 5 years or less.
Less than 5% of those who lose weight manage to permanently maintain their weight loss.
How comes that some people do succeed in permanently losing the stubborn fat? These people succeed because weight loss is an easy and natural process for those who eliminate the mental block mentioned above by Dr Charles Dodson.
The missing link in the Weight Loss equation is acquiring a Weight Loss Mindset prior to attempting to lose weight. Your mindset incorporates your beliefs about yourself and about how you can successfully cope with certain experiences.
Weight Loss Mindset + Healthy Meals + Regular Exercising = Permanent Weight Loss
----
How to Lose Weight and keep it off for good?
There are 6 steps to achieving this:
----
Step 1 - Discover the cause of your weight gain!
For those who suffer from a medical condition, the cause of their weight gain may be their medical condition.
For all the rest of us, the cause of our weight gain can reside in one of below four categories:
1. The way we reacted to past experiences.
It is common that people choose eating as a coping mechanism/ relief from:
- Betrayal
- Forced early maturation
- Loss of loved ones
- Lack of work and relaxation balance
- Abuse
- Neglect
- Rejection
- Anger
- Not knowing yourself
- Extreme care for others to the extend where you have no time to fulfil your own needs.
"Half of us overeat when we're stressed, and half undereat," concludes Dr Mary Boggiano.
2. Conditioning :
Many of the things that we do today are a result of conditioning.
This is just a scientific term for our predisposition to form mental associations between events and their outcome or between two things.
For example, if you have been given sweets by your loving parents as a reward for behaving well, you
might have developed the unconscious belief that sweets are a proof of love or of being worthy.
Now, years later, you may still mentally associate sweets with the emotions of praise, love, care, attention and feeling good.
This belief makes you more susceptible to eat sweets when you feels lonely, uncared for and unappreciated. Being taught to eat all the food on your plate is another usual conditioning.
3. Boredom.
4. Dieting.
According to therapist and Counsellor Karen Wright's research, "dieting, combined with occasional sugar-and-fat-filled sprees, might prime a person's neurochemistry for bingeing behaviour, triggering the same systems as in addiction.
The changes could make a person especially vulnerable to bingeing in response to stress, because stress hormones can also stimulate cravings for high-calorie comfort foods."
Apparently, you are 18% more likely to develop an eating disorder if you are constantly dieting.
----
Step 2 - Understand the experience which led you to find escape or comfort in food!
Was this experience specifically intended to hurt you or was it nothing but a result of someone's personal circumstances (e.g.: upbringing, culture, religion, financial situation, education)?
For example:
John found comfort in food as a result of being neglected by his mother.
He tried to understand why his mother had neglected him.
When he thoroughly thought about his mother's life, he realized that she had been abused or rejected as a child.
Also, the time, country and community in which his mother was brought up did not provide her with the appropriate medium for developing the necessary interpersonal skills mandatory for effective parenting.
Neglecting her child was not entirely her fault, but a result of her past experiences and limited specialized knowledge.
----
Step 3 - Discover Yourself!
1. What is it that you love doing?
2. Which are the things that you are really brilliant at doing?
3. Which are the things that you used to dream of as a child?
4. Which are the things that intrigue you?
5. Which are the things that you would love to do/ experience?
6. Which are your talents?
7. Which are your qualities?
8. How could you use your qualities more often?
9. Which are the people who you enjoy being around?
10. Which are your flaws?
11. What should happen in order to make you think less about your flaws?
12. Which are the people who you do not enjoy being around?
13. Which are the things that you dislike doing?
14. Which beliefs are holding you back from achieving your dream life?
15. What would you need to do different in order to live a happier life?
16. When, where and why are you more likely to overeat?
17. When, where and why are you more likely to eat without being hungry?
18. When, where and why are you more likely to eat highly processed food (pastry, cake, fast food, etc.)?
19. When and why are you more likely to give up exercise?
----
Step 4 - Dream BIG!
Make your future compelling! You deserve the best in all areas of your life and you can have it all! Try not to settle for much less than you deserve! It will be tough at times, but you have to learn to be happy in the process of achieving your dreams! Just remember what you are striving for!
'Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.' ~Les Brown' Some of the world's greatest feats were accomplished by people not smart enough to know they were impossible.'
~Doug Larson 'Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.' ~Anonymous 'It is never too late to be who you might have been.' ~George Eliot
----
Step 5 - Ditch! ----
1. Ditch the diets!
As previously explained, diets do not work on the long-term, because they do not take into account our emotions.
Some of them are depriving you of necessary nutrients and some diet products can have harmful side effects.
Plus, by going on a diet, you are 18% more likely to develop an eating disorder.
Eating disorders are mental disorders.
----
2. Ditch the weight loss obsession!
Being concerned about your weight means unnecessary distress.
Things remain the same, whether or not you are stressing yourself about them, so, do yourself a huge favour and save yourself years of life.
Your self - worth is not your weight. Being slim is nothing but a personal feature - like being selfish or honest. Some cultures see it as a quality, some as a flaw.
Have you ever heard one talk for hours and hours about not being honest enough? Or have you ever seen one research methods of becoming more honest? I guess the answer is: 'No.'.
Each of us has a bundle of qualities. Do the most of what you have!
Your weight is not your worth as a human. Your unique selling points in life are the measurement of your value; they represent your real worth.
Think about the Plus Size Miss Contestants. Those women are happy with their body. They accept themselves. They understand that their weight is separate from their worth.
They focus on all of their qualities. Confidence brings them a magnetic personality. This makes them attractive.
Honestly, if you do not want to be a size 0 supermodel, why do you have to stress yourself so much about your looks?
Do you think that models stress themselves about juggling a full-time job, family obligations and keeping fit?
No. Their job is keeping fit. See, they have the time and the peace of mind to get fit and stay in shape.
Celebrities do the same. Some spend up to 5 hours per day training (e.g.: Madonna). They have a professional makeup artist, a professional nutritionist, a personal fitness coach, a personal stylist, a chef, a cleaner, a nanny, an accountant, a promoter, a brand manager, etc..
All they have to do is keep fit and work on their talent. You could do that too if you were to be in their shoes. But, is this what you want from your life - to eat an organic salad leaf per meal, to jog for 5 hours a day and to see your family for half an hour a week?
Don't you have more important things to achieve in life?
What if your weight issue was your blessing?
Let me explain. What if you were meant to be the one who can help other people live a happier life?
Maybe your weight issue is your wake up call to accept-ing yourself just the way you are. By doing so, you can teach others how to do the same.
You can help many other people overcome the self-acceptance issue.
There is no greater fulfilment in life than bringing joy in other people's lives.
----
3. Ditch the self-hatred!
We are not allowed to use psychological torture, discrimination or insults against other people.
These acts are considered crimes and can be legally punished.
Why self-imposed psychological torture, self-hatred and self-insulting are not regarded as a crime?
What gives you the legal right to torture your mind and affect your life?
Self- hatred is also expressed through self - imposed lack of work - rest balance.
Those who consider that work is more important than their balanced life, tell themselves that they are not worthy enough of rest.
Those who consider that they constantly have to prove themselves, because their successful results raise their value, do not know their real worth.
3. Ditch the fear/ shame of being yourself!
No one is perfect. We all make mistakes and we are all unique.
That is why we are called individuals. We do not all have to be the same and we cannot be.
We all have our qualities and our flaws. Could you imagine a world full of identical people?
If you are romantic, be romantic! If you are an inborn mess at keeping money learn proven skills from the successful ones or get an accountant and focus your effort into doing what you are best at doing!
----
4. Ditch your lousy/ abusive romantic relation!
If you feel trapped in a romantic relation that does not serve you, end it NOW! If you are abused or unappreciated, why stay?!
Life is more fun being single, than being alone in a relation. Being single enhances your chance to meet a caring partner. Nothing is more important than your personal happiness.
Lousy romantic relations make people unhappy. Unhappy people are more likely to overeat and to abuse alcohol or other drugs for psychological comfort.
Also, they are more likely to get sick, miss more working days and be less productive at work.
Divorce is much better for a child's development, than living with two parents who no longer deeply appreciate and love each other.
I am saying this from my personal experience and from thousands of other people's life experience.
----
5. Ditch the uninspiring exercising!
If you have failed to stick to your gym schedule as you always found an excuse not to go, it may not be because you do not enjoy exercising.
Chances are that you do not enjoy working out in a gym! Find a form of exercise that inspires you and keeps you impatient about going for the next session. Maybe a dance class or an open air sport.
----
6. Ditch your boring job!
Few people consider doing what they most enjoy doing because they think that it is impossible to make a paid career out of it.
So, they take a job that pays the bills and they run through life with the burden of unhappiness and regret.
They are living for the weekend. If you are one of them, STOP torturing yourself and wasting your life!
Being deeply inspired by your career can bring you:
- Personal and professional happiness (which reduce the chance to overeat).
- A better romantic relation (which reduces the chance to overeat).
- Better family relations (which reduce the chance to overeat).
- Higher productivity.
- Higher income (which give you the financial freedom to experience the things that you dream of).
----
7. Ditch the people who drain your energy!
Life is short! Why waste it with people who bring no joy into your life?
----
8. Ditch the shame!
• Ashamed of doing things differently than others?
• Embarrassed of ditching your job?
• Embarrassed of ditching your partner?
• Embarrassed of being yourself?
• Ashamed of being too out of shape to exercise?
• What are you ashamed of?
----
9. Ditch the fear!
Are you afraid of change?
----
10. Ditch the Emotional Eating Habit!
Each time you feel like eating without being hungry or you want to overeat, eat fast food, sweets or other highly processed foods, stop and listen to your feelings.
Ask yourself:
- What am I really looking for?
- What is missing in my life now?
- How can I fill in the emotional gap with what I really need?
- Write down three steps that you can take immediately or, at least, during the same day.
- Have the food you wanted to eat, if you still want to have it.
For example, if you feel depressed, your three steps could be:
- Call a person that cares about you or a confidential non-judgemental emotional support charity as The Samaritans or Befrienders.
- Do an altruistic act - help someone in need. Altruistic acts are proved to diminish depression. You can do it even via the internet - advise someone!
Donate your time, not money!
- Go for a dance class. Exercise and social interaction are proved to diminish depression.
----
11. Ditch the rush!
Be kind on you! You ate too much today?! So what? Weight loss and its maintenance is a lifelong journey.
Be flexible with what life throws at you!
----
12. Ditch everything that does not make you truly, madly, deeply happy!
----
Step 6 - Discover Your Life Purpose!
Your life purpose represents your main passion.
It is an activity which you find genuinely meaningful.
Your life purpose keeps you inspired and feeling alive.
Not knowing your life purpose can easily lock you in the dark cage of food/ drugs/ drinking addiction.
Knowing your life purpose will keep you away from such a hard-to-escape possibility and will help you achieve and maintain a Permanent Weight Loss Mindset.
Ferocious passion for fulfilling your life purpose will replace the obsessive thoughts about food and weight.
----
Step 7 - Nurture Your Body!
Eat whatever you feel like, but:
1. Make sure your body receives a varied and healthy amount of nutrients
2. You savour each bit of food you put in your mouth. Take your time to enjoy it!
3. You drink plenty of water.
----
Step 8 - Pamper Yourself!
Treat yourself the way you would like others to treat you!
Be your best friend!
Respect your body's and soul's needs!
----
Healthy food and exercising play a large part in the weight loss process, but these two alone are not sufficient in leading people to long lasting weight loss.
There seems to be a missing ingredient in the Permanent Weight Loss Equation.
Healthy Meals + Regular Exercising +? = Permanent Weight Loss.
Professor Dr David Charles Dodson is one of experts who are convinced that the overweight epidemic is generated and maintained by psychological issues which cannot be solved by a crash diet. He says:
"Most people with weight problems have struggled to lose it for years and in the process have become quite expert in the fields of diet and exercise... yet their weight remains out of control. This implies a sort of mental block, an inability to apply the knowledge one has." 97% of those who go on a diet fail in completing it.
More than 95 % of those who lose weight through diets gain all the weight back within 5 years or less.
Less than 5% of those who lose weight manage to permanently maintain their weight loss.
How comes that some people do succeed in permanently losing the stubborn fat? These people succeed because weight loss is an easy and natural process for those who eliminate the mental block mentioned above by Dr Charles Dodson.
The missing link in the Weight Loss equation is acquiring a Weight Loss Mindset prior to attempting to lose weight. Your mindset incorporates your beliefs about yourself and about how you can successfully cope with certain experiences.
Weight Loss Mindset + Healthy Meals + Regular Exercising = Permanent Weight Loss
----
How to Lose Weight and keep it off for good?
There are 6 steps to achieving this:
----
Step 1 - Discover the cause of your weight gain!
For those who suffer from a medical condition, the cause of their weight gain may be their medical condition.
For all the rest of us, the cause of our weight gain can reside in one of below four categories:
1. The way we reacted to past experiences.
It is common that people choose eating as a coping mechanism/ relief from:
- Betrayal
- Forced early maturation
- Loss of loved ones
- Lack of work and relaxation balance
- Abuse
- Neglect
- Rejection
- Anger
- Not knowing yourself
- Extreme care for others to the extend where you have no time to fulfil your own needs.
"Half of us overeat when we're stressed, and half undereat," concludes Dr Mary Boggiano.
2. Conditioning :
Many of the things that we do today are a result of conditioning.
This is just a scientific term for our predisposition to form mental associations between events and their outcome or between two things.
For example, if you have been given sweets by your loving parents as a reward for behaving well, you
might have developed the unconscious belief that sweets are a proof of love or of being worthy.
Now, years later, you may still mentally associate sweets with the emotions of praise, love, care, attention and feeling good.
This belief makes you more susceptible to eat sweets when you feels lonely, uncared for and unappreciated. Being taught to eat all the food on your plate is another usual conditioning.
3. Boredom.
4. Dieting.
According to therapist and Counsellor Karen Wright's research, "dieting, combined with occasional sugar-and-fat-filled sprees, might prime a person's neurochemistry for bingeing behaviour, triggering the same systems as in addiction.
The changes could make a person especially vulnerable to bingeing in response to stress, because stress hormones can also stimulate cravings for high-calorie comfort foods."
Apparently, you are 18% more likely to develop an eating disorder if you are constantly dieting.
----
Step 2 - Understand the experience which led you to find escape or comfort in food!
Was this experience specifically intended to hurt you or was it nothing but a result of someone's personal circumstances (e.g.: upbringing, culture, religion, financial situation, education)?
For example:
John found comfort in food as a result of being neglected by his mother.
He tried to understand why his mother had neglected him.
When he thoroughly thought about his mother's life, he realized that she had been abused or rejected as a child.
Also, the time, country and community in which his mother was brought up did not provide her with the appropriate medium for developing the necessary interpersonal skills mandatory for effective parenting.
Neglecting her child was not entirely her fault, but a result of her past experiences and limited specialized knowledge.
----
Step 3 - Discover Yourself!
1. What is it that you love doing?
2. Which are the things that you are really brilliant at doing?
3. Which are the things that you used to dream of as a child?
4. Which are the things that intrigue you?
5. Which are the things that you would love to do/ experience?
6. Which are your talents?
7. Which are your qualities?
8. How could you use your qualities more often?
9. Which are the people who you enjoy being around?
10. Which are your flaws?
11. What should happen in order to make you think less about your flaws?
12. Which are the people who you do not enjoy being around?
13. Which are the things that you dislike doing?
14. Which beliefs are holding you back from achieving your dream life?
15. What would you need to do different in order to live a happier life?
16. When, where and why are you more likely to overeat?
17. When, where and why are you more likely to eat without being hungry?
18. When, where and why are you more likely to eat highly processed food (pastry, cake, fast food, etc.)?
19. When and why are you more likely to give up exercise?
----
Step 4 - Dream BIG!
Make your future compelling! You deserve the best in all areas of your life and you can have it all! Try not to settle for much less than you deserve! It will be tough at times, but you have to learn to be happy in the process of achieving your dreams! Just remember what you are striving for!
'Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.' ~Les Brown' Some of the world's greatest feats were accomplished by people not smart enough to know they were impossible.'
~Doug Larson 'Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.' ~Anonymous 'It is never too late to be who you might have been.' ~George Eliot
----
Step 5 - Ditch! ----
1. Ditch the diets!
As previously explained, diets do not work on the long-term, because they do not take into account our emotions.
Some of them are depriving you of necessary nutrients and some diet products can have harmful side effects.
Plus, by going on a diet, you are 18% more likely to develop an eating disorder.
Eating disorders are mental disorders.
----
2. Ditch the weight loss obsession!
Being concerned about your weight means unnecessary distress.
Things remain the same, whether or not you are stressing yourself about them, so, do yourself a huge favour and save yourself years of life.
Your self - worth is not your weight. Being slim is nothing but a personal feature - like being selfish or honest. Some cultures see it as a quality, some as a flaw.
Have you ever heard one talk for hours and hours about not being honest enough? Or have you ever seen one research methods of becoming more honest? I guess the answer is: 'No.'.
Each of us has a bundle of qualities. Do the most of what you have!
Your weight is not your worth as a human. Your unique selling points in life are the measurement of your value; they represent your real worth.
Think about the Plus Size Miss Contestants. Those women are happy with their body. They accept themselves. They understand that their weight is separate from their worth.
They focus on all of their qualities. Confidence brings them a magnetic personality. This makes them attractive.
Honestly, if you do not want to be a size 0 supermodel, why do you have to stress yourself so much about your looks?
Do you think that models stress themselves about juggling a full-time job, family obligations and keeping fit?
No. Their job is keeping fit. See, they have the time and the peace of mind to get fit and stay in shape.
Celebrities do the same. Some spend up to 5 hours per day training (e.g.: Madonna). They have a professional makeup artist, a professional nutritionist, a personal fitness coach, a personal stylist, a chef, a cleaner, a nanny, an accountant, a promoter, a brand manager, etc..
All they have to do is keep fit and work on their talent. You could do that too if you were to be in their shoes. But, is this what you want from your life - to eat an organic salad leaf per meal, to jog for 5 hours a day and to see your family for half an hour a week?
Don't you have more important things to achieve in life?
What if your weight issue was your blessing?
Let me explain. What if you were meant to be the one who can help other people live a happier life?
Maybe your weight issue is your wake up call to accept-ing yourself just the way you are. By doing so, you can teach others how to do the same.
You can help many other people overcome the self-acceptance issue.
There is no greater fulfilment in life than bringing joy in other people's lives.
----
3. Ditch the self-hatred!
We are not allowed to use psychological torture, discrimination or insults against other people.
These acts are considered crimes and can be legally punished.
Why self-imposed psychological torture, self-hatred and self-insulting are not regarded as a crime?
What gives you the legal right to torture your mind and affect your life?
Self- hatred is also expressed through self - imposed lack of work - rest balance.
Those who consider that work is more important than their balanced life, tell themselves that they are not worthy enough of rest.
Those who consider that they constantly have to prove themselves, because their successful results raise their value, do not know their real worth.
3. Ditch the fear/ shame of being yourself!
No one is perfect. We all make mistakes and we are all unique.
That is why we are called individuals. We do not all have to be the same and we cannot be.
We all have our qualities and our flaws. Could you imagine a world full of identical people?
If you are romantic, be romantic! If you are an inborn mess at keeping money learn proven skills from the successful ones or get an accountant and focus your effort into doing what you are best at doing!
----
4. Ditch your lousy/ abusive romantic relation!
If you feel trapped in a romantic relation that does not serve you, end it NOW! If you are abused or unappreciated, why stay?!
Life is more fun being single, than being alone in a relation. Being single enhances your chance to meet a caring partner. Nothing is more important than your personal happiness.
Lousy romantic relations make people unhappy. Unhappy people are more likely to overeat and to abuse alcohol or other drugs for psychological comfort.
Also, they are more likely to get sick, miss more working days and be less productive at work.
Divorce is much better for a child's development, than living with two parents who no longer deeply appreciate and love each other.
I am saying this from my personal experience and from thousands of other people's life experience.
----
5. Ditch the uninspiring exercising!
If you have failed to stick to your gym schedule as you always found an excuse not to go, it may not be because you do not enjoy exercising.
Chances are that you do not enjoy working out in a gym! Find a form of exercise that inspires you and keeps you impatient about going for the next session. Maybe a dance class or an open air sport.
----
6. Ditch your boring job!
Few people consider doing what they most enjoy doing because they think that it is impossible to make a paid career out of it.
So, they take a job that pays the bills and they run through life with the burden of unhappiness and regret.
They are living for the weekend. If you are one of them, STOP torturing yourself and wasting your life!
Being deeply inspired by your career can bring you:
- Personal and professional happiness (which reduce the chance to overeat).
- A better romantic relation (which reduces the chance to overeat).
- Better family relations (which reduce the chance to overeat).
- Higher productivity.
- Higher income (which give you the financial freedom to experience the things that you dream of).
----
7. Ditch the people who drain your energy!
Life is short! Why waste it with people who bring no joy into your life?
----
8. Ditch the shame!
• Ashamed of doing things differently than others?
• Embarrassed of ditching your job?
• Embarrassed of ditching your partner?
• Embarrassed of being yourself?
• Ashamed of being too out of shape to exercise?
• What are you ashamed of?
----
9. Ditch the fear!
Are you afraid of change?
----
10. Ditch the Emotional Eating Habit!
Each time you feel like eating without being hungry or you want to overeat, eat fast food, sweets or other highly processed foods, stop and listen to your feelings.
Ask yourself:
- What am I really looking for?
- What is missing in my life now?
- How can I fill in the emotional gap with what I really need?
- Write down three steps that you can take immediately or, at least, during the same day.
- Have the food you wanted to eat, if you still want to have it.
For example, if you feel depressed, your three steps could be:
- Call a person that cares about you or a confidential non-judgemental emotional support charity as The Samaritans or Befrienders.
- Do an altruistic act - help someone in need. Altruistic acts are proved to diminish depression. You can do it even via the internet - advise someone!
Donate your time, not money!
- Go for a dance class. Exercise and social interaction are proved to diminish depression.
----
11. Ditch the rush!
Be kind on you! You ate too much today?! So what? Weight loss and its maintenance is a lifelong journey.
Be flexible with what life throws at you!
----
12. Ditch everything that does not make you truly, madly, deeply happy!
----
Step 6 - Discover Your Life Purpose!
Your life purpose represents your main passion.
It is an activity which you find genuinely meaningful.
Your life purpose keeps you inspired and feeling alive.
Not knowing your life purpose can easily lock you in the dark cage of food/ drugs/ drinking addiction.
Knowing your life purpose will keep you away from such a hard-to-escape possibility and will help you achieve and maintain a Permanent Weight Loss Mindset.
Ferocious passion for fulfilling your life purpose will replace the obsessive thoughts about food and weight.
----
Step 7 - Nurture Your Body!
Eat whatever you feel like, but:
1. Make sure your body receives a varied and healthy amount of nutrients
2. You savour each bit of food you put in your mouth. Take your time to enjoy it!
3. You drink plenty of water.
----
Step 8 - Pamper Yourself!
Treat yourself the way you would like others to treat you!
Be your best friend!
Respect your body's and soul's needs!
----
To Your Success!
Bianca Arsene
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